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"He's so sweet and amazing, I'm sure we're meant to be!"
That's what all girls say about their first boyfriend.

"You know, he's really cute too. Plus, he has cute friends!"
Your definition of "cute" normally doesn't include manners or intelligence.

"He took me out for dinner and kissed me after he asked! He's the one! We're going to go to college together!"
Are you an idiot? These types of relationships rarely last...focus on life, not puppy love.

"...hey...we're fighting...I think he hates me now...did I call him too much? Text him too much?"
Try "Was I too nave?" or maybe even "Did I talk about myself too much?"

"Oh, God...he broke up with me...he thinks we can't be happy. But we...said we loved one another...What do I do?"
Get over it and concentrate on something that's more important. Like your friends. Like me. Or do you only talk to me so you can rub HIM in my face?

"We're getting back together! See, I told you he loves me! And I love him!"
...how stupid can you be?

"I broke up with him. We were fighting too much. He was such an asshole to me, saying I was too ditzy and I was annoying him. I thought he was the one. I really did. We even had our college years planned out..."
Shut the fuck up. Shut the FUCK up. All you ever did was talk about him. How perfect he was. The problems he had. The problems you both had together. You never listened to my problems. You put our friendship under a boy that wasn't right for you in the first place.

If you want to find better fish in the sea, then stop being as shallow as a goddamn kiddie pool and grow up the way you're supposed to...my dear "friend."
The italicized are actual words that were said by my friend. The code-style are the words I wish I had said.

This is basically what happened when one of my best friends started to pay more attention to her first boyfriend rather than her friends. Including me. I was hurt. I wanted to tell her all those things, but I knew she'd get angry. All she would do when she did contact me was talk about him and how perfect everything was...or the issues they were having. And honestly, I stopped caring.

Again, this is just me trying to vent.

I understand the need to have someone to date, and I know that girls will usually put their boyfriends over the friends. But it still hurt. A lot. And now, well...our close friendship isn't as close anymore. I miss her.

I want the courage to tell her how much she's hurt me, though.

And I want to tell her I'm sorry for feeling this way.
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LupiniunStar Featured By Owner Jul 22, 2013
You know, I think it's fine to feel that way. How does the saying go? Boys come and go, but friends are here to stay?

Unless, of course, you're selfish and just talk about your boyfriends to them. I remember in seventh grade, my friend got her first boyfriend and he was ALL she could talk about. We kinda drifted apart because of that.

But you really have so much strength to not say anything through all that, even though you just wanted her to be there for you, and be quiet for just long enough for her to listen and care about you. Even if you say you just didn' say anything because you didn't want to fight, or were scared to lose her...it's still some sort of strength, I think.

Not to mention, this poem came out of it. You're very good at turning your life into good poetry for others to read.
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D0RKGASM Featured By Owner Apr 27, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I've had several crushes, one love, and only a few dates on the internet, if you could even call them that, but never once did I turn my back on a friend, or always bring her down, creating some kind of burden with the conflicting emotions I'd had at that time.

Several years have passed since, she has a boyfriend, and it's a bit like I don't exist when she's talking to him. Otherwise, however, we're fine. I hope you've worked this out, and if not, I hope you can, and wish you the best of luck. Seeing what other people are like inspires me to be different, and so I also hope this situation is never reversed.
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wubwubwolf Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2013
Ze frau's of mein group all had relationships (aka; relation-shits) with ze Mnner's in ze group und they all got together around ze same time und then kept telling mich about their Relationshits und they basically talked like this.

Surely there are people that are so cookie cut that it gets so annoying but there are people that are original.
Over all ich love this piece und how it had another's point of view.
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Espada-Kitsuki Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
This is brilliantly put. Friendships can be pressured when boyfriends get in the way--all your friend will ever talk about is the boy, all they ever rant on about is themselves, the boys, whatever. This kind of thing, when you get too shallow and obsessed on one boy, can ruin a friendship. You worded this quite well.
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PrussianPersephone Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Thanks. I just basically vented.
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chocominte Featured By Owner Jan 10, 2013  Student General Artist
I can really feel you with the we-just-got-back-together thing omg.
And I'll just be like 'stop messing with me man. i dont want anymore drama.'
:iconsupertighthugplz: <3
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PrussianPersephone Featured By Owner Jan 10, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I wish I had the balls to tell her that, though, back when it was happening.
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DragonFire816 Featured By Owner Jan 10, 2013
You are a really good writer!

I am really sorry that she put him over your.......
But if I were you I would try to work things out with her and tell her how you really feel. If she really was a close true friend then she will understand what your trying to tell her.......
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PrussianPersephone Featured By Owner Jan 10, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I've tried talking to her. She won't listen and will just change the subject. And I don't want to make her angry.
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DragonFire816 Featured By Owner Jan 14, 2013
I know what you mean. I'm sorry that she keep changing the subject, it can be really annoying.....

I hope things work out between you guys.
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